Finding that special someone

I was recently asked, “How do I find someone to spend my life with?”

 

Well, my first thought was, it’s all luck! Ha! I did get very lucky when I found my wife but I do have a couple thoughts in mind about this.

 

This person told me that they go to clubs looking for someone but only find people that want to hook up for the night. They said they don’t go to church so they can not find someone there.

 

First off, stop looking. If you go to a bar looking for someone the odds are you will find someone, someone that likes to spend time at a bar. If you are not a bar person this probably wont work out. I’m not saying it is impossible. If you met your mate in a bar that is awesome! But the odds are slim and you, just like me, got lucky.

 

Looking for that special someone usually ends in finding that special someone for right now, not for your life. It usually works for a short time and then it ends. So, really, stop looking outward for that special someone and start looking in the mirror. YOU are that special someone. You are amazing and YOU are someone else’s special someone. There is someone out there for you but no one can predict the timing or circumstances of your meeting.

 

Once you meet that person you can begin to focus on their happiness, but in the meantime, focus on you. People are attracted to smiley, happy people. Make sure you are happy with you and someone else will take notice and THEY will be happy with you, and you will be happy with them.

 

Do what you love. If you like the outdoors, go on a group hike or group canoe trip or some other outdoor trek and guess what? You will meet people that, just like you, like the outdoors. THAT would be the beginning of a great relationship. But don’t go on the hike to meet someone. Just go, have fun, enjoy life and it will happen when the timing is right.

 

If you love to go bowling, join a league. You will meet many bowlers and maybe, just maybe, your special someone. I do have a friend that was an avid bowler. He met a girl there. They bowled together, on leagues, three nights a week. He proposed, she accepted, and they got married…at the bowling alley! Ha! They were really die hard bowlers but you get the idea.

 

I have a friend that met his wife when he was 42 years old. They have a baby and are happy together. Don’t sweat being single, love it, enjoy it, be patient. Patience is not the ability to wait, but the ability to keep a good attitude while waiting.

 

I was not looking for someone when I met my wife over twenty years ago but we found each other and have enjoyed many awesome years together.